Most funeral homes offer a chapel or another appropriate setting for the service to provide comfort, beauty, and reverence. You may also choose to hold the service at the family church, synagogue, or other suitable location.
If you are not affiliated with a church or synagogue, but desire a religious service, your funeral director can suggest a clergy. He or she can also recommend non-traditional alternatives that maintain the funeral's positive values and dignity.
Funerals are for the living… to rejoice in
the one who has caused this coming together.
You may consider what kind of tribute you wish to make. A suitable tribute might include a eulogy or personal remark by either the clergy or a close personal friend. Biblical passages, favorite poetry, or other appropriate readings may be chosen. You may also wish to include music for its beauty and symbolism. Your funeral director will assist you in all your decisions.
If the deceased belonged to a fraternal group or similar organization, associated rituals may be available for the family's use before the service or incorporated into other funeral preparations. Your clergy can advise you, and your funeral director will know whom to contact for these arrangements.
The family may choose to place a floral spray on the casket, which should be delivered just before the visitation period begins. Your funeral director can advise you, or you may prefer to contact a favorite florist. The caskets of veterans may be draped with an American flag, which your funeral director can obtain without charge from the Veterans Administration. After burial, this flag is presented to the next-of-kin.
You and other family members will select casket bearers. Either your funeral director or a family member will notify them. Sometimes honorary casket bearers are also chosen-not to help carry the casket, but to honor the memory of the deceased.